Dinner

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This may be my favorite photo in the book. You can see that I have just said something pithy and my sister is debating whether to pinch me. We used to play Confederates and Yankees with the Shannon boys–we were all Confederates, as were they, with one ancestor fighting in Barksdale’s Mississippi brigade, and Cayce named for him–and that is the photo’s relevance to a book about the Civil War.

My mother adored the Shannon boys, and the proof positive in this photograph is the Irish lace tablecloth she’s laid out. That was normally reserved for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

It’s dusk, and you can see the Santa Lucias beyond the glass doors. The view then was unencumbered by houses, and you could see Branch School, our two-roomed pink schoolhouse, in one corner of the Valley, a constant presence and comforting.

In the same direction, Dona Manuela Branch’s home burned down about that same time, 1959. This was the house that her sons had built for her after Francis Branch died in 1874. It happened in the early morning hours and the CDF trucks and their sirens woke us up; we looked out that door as the house burned, giving off a white-hot light that was as bright as a star, and then it was gone. A neighbor whose name I can’t remember–he always wore overalls–gave me a ride on his homemade motor scooter to the site, today marked by palm trees, and Mrs. Branch’s house was just a grey-black outline, with a few wisps of smoke, marking the foundation. It was tragic.

Out the side windows were my mother’s rose bushes and beyond that the little pasture where my sister’s horses grazed. Mrs. Harris lived across the street, the Coehlos a little beyond, the McNeils and then the Shannons near the end, near the junction of Branch Mill and Huasna Roads. The land beyond the pasture was planted, sometimes, in beans that climbed on their wooden stakes and on summer mornings, the ocean fog brushed the bean-stake tips until the sun burned it away. Sunrises were spectacular looking out those windows, and once snow dusted the foothills beyond the door. A place like this is a wonderful place to grow up and, for aspiring writers, like my friend Michael Shannon and me, it is a place rich with stories waiting to be told.

 

 

San Luis Obispo’s African American heritage

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I have been meaning to read this book for three years; it’s about the great African American migration from the South to the North.  Eventually, it would reach the Pacific Coast. I am also terrified to even start this book because I am afraid that I will love it,  and this is why: this is something I’d love to write about, too.

But I wonder if I can. There is the obvious handicap: I am as white as a new pack of Jockey briefs. Beyond that, I am descended from slaveowners—Virginians, Kentuckians, Missourians—and I am in fact named for two Confederates who, no matter how hard they  tried to twist the logic (their battle flag was a white cross on field of blue) were fighting to defend the perpetuation and the expansion of slavery, enormously profitable still in 1861. I grew up in a place rich in Mexican, Asian and Azorean culture, but the Stone family were about the only African Americans that I knew growing up, especially Malcolm, who was one of my older brother’s best friends.

But I’m like the dog in Up!—I keep having these “squirrel” moments. I am easily distracted. The 20s-30s book took a left turn and then went over a cliff into the Civil War, and now I want to tackle a subject about which I have only the briefest acquaintance.

That brief acquaintance came mostly through a year of the History of the American South at the University of Missouri. It hooked me. The Middle Passage, slaves’ impact on the English language and the coded language they spoke only among themselves, the centrality of Moses in their faith, the centrality of their faith in their endurance, the thousand ways they subtly resisted, the vitality of slaves’ family lives, which were always in danger, the incredible tension, on large plantations, that came when the eldest son inherited and suddenly, the woman who had for all intents and purposes been his mother now was his chattel.

After the war, the litany of injustices enraged, I guess, the Irish half of me: the revocation of voting rights after 1877, the rise of the KIan, race rioters bent on extermination, the wave of lynchings, including of women, including of children, the Scottsboro Boys, Emmett Till, three buried voting rights workers in Neshoba County, Mississippi, the murders of Medgar Evers and of Martin.

But.

There are incandescent bursts of dignity and pride, from the Tuskegee Institute to the vitality, up North, of the Harlem Renaissance and of the Negro Leagues. In World War I, black soldiers had fought like tigers, but they fought for the French, who asked to borrow them because they needed them, and the Americans were using them for manual labor. Black American poilus astonished the French with their battlefield discipline and their courage. [And the French fell in love with African Americans, too, with Sidney Bechet, with Josephine Baker, who felt more at home in Paris during the 20s than they had ever felt in the States.]

Despite their performance in the Great War, American policy was much the same in World War II, but then you see the brilliant bursts of pride and character again: the Tuskegee airmen, all-black tank units, the defiance of black sailors after the Port Chicago disaster that killed over three hundred of their comrades, the role black women played in defense plants from Biloxi to Seattle, despite the fact that even shipyard unions in the East Bay followed the color line.

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It was the war that brought the first large numbers of African Americans to San Luis Obispo.  Jim Crow was observed here, too.  This building, which would be unrecognizable to any Camp San Luis Obispo soldier from 75 years ago, near Chinatown, was the black USO. The white USO was the gymnasium that still stands much as it just off Palm Street. The dependents of black GI’s began to settle in the southern part of town, especially in what had been Japantown, along what had been Eto Street because, of course, those people were banished to the desert and even the street name had to be banished, as well.

One of the conversations I had with Haruo Hayashi that endeared him to me the most was about his stint, near the end of the war, with the 442nd Regimental Combat Team. The Four-four-two GI’s trained in the Deep South, in Mississippi, and Haruo’s first encounter with Jim Crow came when his platoon of Nisei recruits had to choose between “white” and “colored” restrooms once they got off the buses for the first time at Camp Shelby. They discovered, after some spectacular and extended profanity and threats of physical violence from both white and black GIs, that “colored” was the incorrect choice. Haruo never got over, never understood, and still doesn’t understand, why at the excellent USO shows that came to that camp, black trainees had to be content with listening to dance bands or torch singers while standing outside the base concert hall. Haruo didn’t like it.

If the war brought African Americans here, where did they come from? How were they treated?  What triggered violence between black and white GIs in San Luis Obispo during the war? What role did St.Luke’s Missionary Baptist Church play in generating a sense of community and fellowship among San Luis Obispo’s black residents? Why did some of these wartime families stay in San Luis Obispo after the war, what kinds of jobs did they hold down, how were they treated? [One of them, I know, was a cook at the Madonna Inn, and am ashamed that  I cannot remember her name, but I do remember that my father, not necessarily an enlightened man when it came to race relations, loved her.] What was their experience of the civil rights movement? When they have family reunions or church potlucks, what food do they eat and where do the recipes come from? What makes so many of their families, like the Stone family, so successful and so open, especially in a community, like Grover (City), where they were not only a minority, but a tiny minority? Wasn’t  it lonely for them?

I have got a thousand more questions that only reveal my own cluelessness. But I’ve found out something about myself, as a writer, that I’ve always known about myself, as a person. I love to learn. And, in writing and teaching, there is no greater joy than in sharing what you’ve learned.

And I want to learn about the experience here of black folks. I am afraid they are stuck with me, a benign little human variation of kudzu. It’s because my Irish mother–there she is again!–so loved and admired what W.E.B. DuBois called “the souls of black folk.” I am, after all, my mother’s son.

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Four marriages

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The Pioneers

The first gunshot fired in the Arroyo Grande Valley came a few weeks before Victoria ascended the throne. It was probably fired from an 1825 Hawken rifle, and its target, dropped, might either have been a meal—mule deer creep down at dusk from the hills to water– or an animal that wanted to make the rifleman a meal. In 1837, the principal occupants of the Arroyo Grande Valley were grizzly bears—hundreds of them—who dominated, unchallenged, what was then monte, the Spanish word for a vast wasteland of marsh dense with cottonwoods. Another newcomer at the time, attempting to settle the remote Huasna Valley, claimed 45 bears in 1837 alone, and, before he gave up the idea of ranching altogether, estimated that he’d killed close to 200. The man who finally settled the Huasna, Isaac Sparks, outlasted the grizzly bears but not before one had cost him an eye.

The man who fired the Hawken rifle that day, Francis Branch, would not give up the idea of ranching and instead would begin to build a home that would someday be the center of a vast rancho, named for his wife, the Santa Manuela, of some 37,000 acres. He’d add to that adjunct lands of another several thousand to nearly double his holdings. He’d been a mountain man before he decided to take up ranching, so he did not miss his shot, and thirty years later, he would become the founder of Arroyo Grande.

He’d brought his wife, thirteen years his junior, with him to this wilderness. Her name was Manuela Carlon, and she would bear him a small army of eleven children, and many of them, as in any army, would be lost. Heavily pregnant, she rode the 90 miles back to her parents’ Santa Barbara home to deliver one child rather than bring it into a world of grizzly bears. She would have the pleasure of seeing what her husband had started grow: the little town of Arroyo Grande may have been her twelfth child and her most important, and it was bustling with commerce, progress and boosterism when she died at 94, in 1909.

But their time together was a time when men were as savage, if not more so, than the rapidly-dwindling grizzly bears. In the County Historical Museum in San Luis Obispo, 19th-century coroner’s reports are kept in what resembles an old-time library card catalogue, and every desk-drawer reveals an adventure when it’s opened. On delicate blue parchment, in the elegant cursive of Victorian America, a researcher can find reports, like the one on a cowboy’s body found on the Cuesta Grade north of San Luis Obispo, that read, with great precision and economy: “Cause of death: Pistol ball through heart.”

When a merciless gang of ship-jumpers and goldfield refugees murdered an innkeeper his family at Mission San Miguel in 1848, it was another former mountain man, like Branch, who found the bodies. “Medicine Jim” Beckwourth rode 62 miles south to William Dana’s Ranch Nipomo to deliver the news; later, Branch and John Price—an alcade, or justice of the peace—who had themselves been visiting the gold fields, inspected the grisly murder scene and Price turned out a posse of enraged citizens to pursue the killers.

It was a second posse of Santa Barbarans who finally caught up to the men south of Santa Barbara, near what is now the little town of Summerland. They were not particularly willing to surrender; there was a running gun battle before they were captured, and one was shot, another, according to some versions, drowned, but may have been helped, and the remaining three were executed by firing squad after an economic trial, shot by soldiers commanded by a future Civil War general, then-Lieutenant Edward O.C. Ord.

So it was an incomplete civilization: a tragedy central to Branch’s life can still be seen in the family’s little burying ground: a poignant story is symbolized by three small tombstones that flank Branch’s. Since his adobe ranch house was, as was customary among the rancheros, a stopping place for travelers, so the smallpox brought there by a stranger killed three of his daughters within a month in the summer of 1862.

Branch, away on business in San Francisco, was summoned home. By the time he arrived, his five-year-old and 16-year-old were already dead; 14-year-old Manuela, his wife’s namesake, would die shortly after. Edward Jenner had introduced smallpox vaccination in 1796, but in mid-century Arroyo Grande, the only available medical care came from the same Mission priest who probably performed the last rites for Branch’s children.

1862 was a turning point for the rancheros and the end of their dominance of the area. They had eradicated grizzlies and killers, but they had no weapons to use against the drought that came then and returns in cycles that 21st-century Americans can see every fall, when the hills of Central and Southern California, yellow and brittle, catch fire and send smoke plumes, into the skies.

When the cattle died, so did Branch’s fortune. The 1860s drought cost him $400,000—roughly $8 million today—and what would have broken another man’s spirit seemed only to energize Branch. Small, spare, said to love a good joke, even if he was the butt of it, Branch was also a sophisticated businessman, and had generated income in a variety of ways—including using the Arroyo Grande Creek to turn a millstone that ground the valley’s grain into flour—and began to make the shift to dairy farming. He was fighting his way back when he died in 1874.

Twelve years later, in 1886, a lynch mob broke into the town jail and hanged a father and his fifteen-year-old son accused of murder from the railway bridge over the Arroyo Grande Creek, along what is today Pacific Coast Railway Place.

While a local minister praised the lynching from his pulpit the Sunday after, Manuela Branch’s reaction was far more memorable. The lynch mob’s victims had been immigrants from Switzerland, newcomers, just as she and her husband had once been. In a gesture of consummate grace, at Manuela Branch’s insistence, they are buried today near Mr. and Mrs. Branch, near the three little girls they had lost to smallpox.

By the time she died, seventy-two years after she’d ridden as a 22-year-old down into a valley infested with grizzly bears, Manuela had become Dona Manuela, a kind of surrogate mother for the little town her husband had started. The Branches were in effect Arroyo Grande’s parents, and no community could hope for better role models, for people who exemplified courage, toughness, compassion, and character.

The Doctor, the Doctor’s Wife, the Doctor’s Daughter

Miss Ruth Paulding had retired by the time I knew her. She had taught language for so many years at Arroyo Grande Union High School, just across the street on Crown Hill from the house where she’d been born, that she became an institution. So had her mother, Clara, a lifelong teacher who decided to teach one more year, in Oceano, when she was seventy-one, so that she could splurge a little on herself. Her teacher’s salary that last year bought her a porcelain kitchen sink. And dentures.

I got to see that sink, among a houseful of minor but precious treasures, during a tour of the Paulding home.

I knew Ruth, or Miss Paulding, when I was a little boy. We were both parishioners at St. Barnabas Episcopal Church. She was by then in a wheelchair but had a kind of elegance about her that was captivating. If you got a little smile from Miss Paulding on returning to your pew from the communion rail, it carried the same freight as a priest’s blessing.

Ruth was born in that house and she would die there in the aftermath of the 1960s, when the nation seemed to be coming apart at the seams, because that was exactly what it was doing. Her mother, Clara, was a great student of history as well as a great teacher–she’d taught at Branch, Huasna, was the principal of the Arroyo Grande Grammar School and one of the founders of the high school–and she might have been able to give us all some perspective then, perspective we need today, about the durability of America and of Americans.

Clara was durable. She and Ed buried a little boy in the front yard, under a white rosebush, who should have been Ruth’s older brother. He died a few hours after a birth that nearly killed Clara, as well. But this was a woman who had commuted to Cholame to teach, spent the night at Creston to come home down the Grade in her trap and pony where there were no turnouts and the road edged sheer drops of hundreds of feet. She later taught at Branch, and by herself, sixty children at eleven different grade levels and not only did she juggle them artfully, but she loved them, too.

And that is the emotion that suffuses the Paulding House when you walk inside. It is a loving, unpretentious kind of homeliness and you are honored to be its guest. It is also a little insistent, as Clara was (she was descended from Jonathan Edwards, the terrifying Puritan divine) that you wipe your feet. That’s why the bathtub, one of Clara’s more prized possessions, adjoins an exterior door that overlooks the gardens where Ed loved to putter. Ed was a doctor by profession but was by nature a putterer. Clara was by nature a pragmatist, so Ed was not allowed back into the house after his gardening until he’d cleaned himself up in the bathroom first. And the bathtub was no trivial thing: people would drive out to the Coffee Rice home in the 1890s just to stare at the bathtub. It was the equivalent of a Disneyland ride. People just didn’t have them, and the Pauldings had Arroyo Grande’s second. It is a long one and looks like it was made for leisurely baths accompanied by books or magazines and maybe a hot chocolate.

Ed also loved woodcarving. Doctoring, not so much, although a glass hutch contains virtually every instrument he’d carried in his black bag, even his original Gray’s Anatomy. He resented it a little when folks got sick or fell off rooftops, as he did once, because it took him away from his flowers and his woodcarving. But there was nobody in San Luis Obispo County better equipped to deal with roof plunges than Ed: he was a natural-born orthopedist, and a bone set by Doc Paulding, it was said, healed as good as new and sometimes better. (Clara would need Ed when a speeding handcar smashed into her buggy at the foot of Crown Hill and broke her arm in three places. It healed completely. And the Pauldings got $1500 from the Pacific Coast Railway, which they needed. Ed was as inept with money as he was skilled at setting broken bones.)

So the mantle and smaller pieces–down to a little rocking chair for Ruth–were all made by Ed, and they’re cut with delicate and graceful motifs, usually floral, inspired by the models he’d just brought in from the garden where he loved to get dirty. Clara later bought a little farm, just outside of town, and it was there where Ed, in his older years, was happiest. When he got sick one day in what would turn out to be his last illness, he’d forgotten to take his morning medicine. Clara, 79, walked–or rather, marched–the five miles out to the farm and watched critically as Ed swallowed his required tablespoon.

There are curios, under glass, everywhere: a rhinoceros-hide warrior’s shield that Ed’s missionary parents had acquired in Syria, where he was born, a Chumash water-carrier, like a canteen, caulked with Pismo tar; the contents of Ed’s pockets, including his pocket-watch and chain, money clip, a tiny folding knife. Aside from Gray’s Anatomy, there are books everywhere: a collected Dickens, A Thousand and One Knights, a multi-volume history of the United States, collections of English Romantic poets, especially Tennyson, Clara’s favorite. And there is the bedframe, dark mahogany, with a lion’s head relief at the headboard, and that lion was Ruth’s lion. It protected her every night she went to sleep as a little girl; it was as solid and as real and as constant as were her parents.

And everywhere there are tea services. Ruth’s little-girl doll’s cups and saucers are painted with delicate, tiny flower buds. There is a sterling-silver coffee service at one end of the dining room table, and on a shelf above, there is the best of all. It’s the set Ruth reserved especially for her high school students when she welcomed them into the home of her own girlhood, and that service was reserved for hot chocolate so rich that teenagers would remember it the rest of their lives.

The Immigrants

There was only one humane opening in the anti-Japanese laws. They allowed those men already in American to settle here with their wives, to send home for them or to send, as if they came from the Sears Catalogue, for “picture brides.”

This is how Shigechika Kobara, one of the early immigrants to the valley, and his wife, Kimi, began their lives together. Their fathers were neighbors in Kagoshima, and after a short negotiation and a longer courtship, by letter, the match was made. Shigechika took a train north and was waiting on a Seattle dock, looking for his bride among the passengers on her ship as it began to berth. She was looking back.

“I remembered his brother, a naval officer,” Kimi recalled, “and I found a man who resembled him. I thought that this was the man I was about to marry. From the deck, I fixed my eyes on him, even though I had never met him. That is why it is called a ‘picture bride.’”

Life in Arroyo Grande dismayed the middle-class, somewhat sheltered Mrs. Kobara. While her husband got up every morning at 4:00 a.m. to groom and harness the draft horses for his boss, Mr. Tomooka, Kimi sat alone in the bed and wondered what she’d gotten into. She wondered every morning; she cried every night.

There is an extraordinary photograph in Cal Poly’s Special Collections.

It’s a housewarming party, about 1949, and it’s an important occasion because Pete Guion had broken decades of de facto segregation. He was the first Filipino American to buy a home in South County. A large group photo taken at the housewarming might be the most significant in the series, for it shows not only a proud Guion and his friends from the Filipino community but also Caucasian and Japanese faces. Something important was beginning to happen four years after the Kobara family had faced such a fearful homecoming from the internment camp at Gila River.

For Filipinos, that change came at the cost of many lives. They had
fought for the country of their birth as well as the country that had showed them little good will, and finally, they began to achieve a measure of justice. Filipino veterans were given a path to citizenship—ten thousand would become naturalized citizens, and under the December 1945 War Brides Act, they finally got the chance to marry and start families in America. So what followed the war was another remarkable campaign in the Philippines. This one was led by ardent bachelors, many of them former soldiers, and its objective was conquest of a different sort, in the form of a flurry of marriage proposals. Between 1945 and 1964, over four thousand Filipinas accepted and came to live in America.

Many of the men, because of immigration restrictions and the prewar miscegenation laws, had deferred marriage and so were considerably older than their fiancées, and they were in a hurry to resume their lives in California.

So they sought to win family approval, get a proper church wedding and arrange for the return of their new wives as quickly as possible. One local woman, Josie Bolivar, remembered her marriage as “kind of a shock” because it violated so many Filipino proprieties—parental negotiation, a protracted and tightly chaperoned courtship and the customary time it took to establish a bond between the groom and the bride’s family. Her father, at first, was upset, but Josie’s wedding—she was, after all, going to become an American—turned out to be a huge affair, complete with uninvited guests and feasting that lasted for days.

Perfecto Betita moved with similar speed in courting Evelyn:

“Right away, he said that we didn’t have much time, that they were looking for someone to marry, and it’s gonna be quick, because we have to go back. After about a month’s time, I found out he had already talked to my grandmother and grandfather, and my uncle and aunt. He told me he didn’t have any more time to stay in the Philippines, and he wanted to…well, marry me.”

The marriage was concluded, and Perfecto brought his bride to the States. When they arrived in San Francisco in July, the first thing the new husband had to do was to buy his wife a coat. She was freezing in what passed for a San Francisco summer. They took a Greyhound bus south to Arroyo Grande, where Evelyn had a reaction very similar to that of Kimi Kobara when she had come to the valley with her husband, Shigechika, in 1920:

Oh, we were so shocked when we came here. We thought we would come here and live in a big two-story, three-story house. But they worked at thefarm, and we were shocked! We said, “This is where they live? I thoughtyou lived in some three-story house? It’s all muddy and farmy!”

Both Evelyn Betita and Kimi Kobara had made marriages that would be happy and successful; their children and grandchildren were very bright, were hard workers and were likewise successful. The apple does not far fall from the tree, they say, not even when the tree’s roots are planted so far away, on Kyushu, in Japan or Luzon, in the Philippines.

My afternoon with the Pauldings

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Clara, Baby Ruth, Ruth’s cousin, Ormie, and Dr. Edwin Paulding, about 1898.

Miss Ruth Paulding had retired by the time I knew her. She had taught language for so many years at Arroyo Grande Union High School, just across the street on Crown Hill from the house where she’d been born, that she had become an institution. So had her mother, Clara, a lifelong teacher who decided to teach one more year, in Oceano, when she was seventy-one, so that she could splurge a little on herself. Her teacher’s salary that last year bought her a porcelain kitchen sink. And dentures.

 

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The St. Barnabas Sunday School, 1906. Clara Paulding, at upper right, was the church organist; this church is now Oceano’s St. Francis.

I got to see that sink, among a houseful of minor but precious treasures, during a tour today after rehearsal for the South County Historical Society production, The Mistress of Crown Hill.

I knew Ruth, or Miss Paulding, when I was a little boy. We were both parishioners at St. Barnabas Episcopal Church, then in a surplus World War II chapel on what was once Barnett Street; the street’s gone and so is the church, replaced by a gas station. Memories have more staying power than mere buildings, especially if they’re of women like Miss Paulding. She was by then in a wheelchair but had a kind of elegance about her, dressed as she was for Grace Cathedral instead of an old army chapel,  and if her body was betraying her, her spine curved cruelly, her spirit was graceful and even youthful. If you got a little smile from Miss Paulding on returning to your pew from the communion rail, it carried the same freight as a priest’s blessing.

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From the 1955 Arroyo Grande Union High School yearbook.

Ruth was born in that house and she would die there in the aftermath of the 1960s, when the nation seemed to be coming apart at the seams, because that was exactly what it was doing. Her mother, Clara, was a great student of history as well as a great teacher–she’d taught at Branch, Huasna, Santa Manuela, Oceano, was the principal of the Arroyo Grande Grammar School and one of the founders of the high school–and she might have been able to give us all some perspective then, perspective we need today, about the durability of America and of Americans.

 

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Branch Elementary School

Clara was durable. She and Ed buried a little boy in the front yard, under a white rosebush, who should have been Ruth’s older brother. He died a few hours after a birth that nearly killed Clara, as well. But this was a woman who had commuted to Cholame to teach, spent the night at Creston to come home down the Grade in her trap and pony where there were no turnouts and the road edged sheer drops of hundreds of feet.

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Clara Edwards Paudling, 1881.

I did not know that I had ties to Clara until later, but from what I knew about Ruth’smother, I was an admirer. She returned to college with Ruth, who’d been promised an extra $100 a year, if she took additional coursework, when the Second World War began to revive the economy. The pair decided to take summer courses at Clara’s alma mater, Mills College. Ruth took classes for the extra money; Clara, at ninety-three, took hers for pleasure, a course in “History of the United States to 1865” because, she said, she remembered the rest.

One of Clara’s assignments during nearly fifty years in the classroom had been at the school I attended, Branch Elementary. There is a photo of her in front of the school. Behind Clara and her bicycle in 1898 is the same doorway I would enter on my first day of formal education sixty years later. She taught, by herself, sixty children at eleven different grade levels and not only did she juggle them artfully, but she loved them, too.

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Clara Paulding, Branch School, 1898

Arroyo Grande’s population, at the time of the photograph, was approaching 1,000. Beyond the town, to the east in the Upper Valley, and to the west, bounded by the sand dunes at the edge of the Pacific, in the Lower Valley, there were patchworks of farms worked by ambitious pragmatists: Arroyo Grande men and their teams of heavily-muscled draft horses, their necks arched in effort, turned some of the richest soil in the world to prepare it for planting. They might have been plowing for sowing pumpkins or carrots, onions or beans, or one of the most important products in the many cycles of agriculture the Valley has seen: flowers, cultivated for their seeds.

What must have delighted Clara Paulding on her two-mile bicycle commute to her sixty students every morning would have been the sight of brilliant fields of flowers and, planted in others, she would have smelled the delicate fragrance of sweet peas.

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A Waller Seed Company employee cultivates a field in the Lower Arroyo Grande Valley at about the time of the First World War.

It’s not hard to imagine her, given her personality, waving cheerily to the men working those fields, their faces hidden by broad-brimmed straw hats, or to imagine them waving back, wide smiles creasing their upturned faces. because even as field workers they had never had this much hope, and even in the Upper Valley, hemmed in closely by the oak-studded Santa Lucia foothills, they had never had this much room.

Clara’s spirit was expansive. She may look severe in her photograph, but she adored, without disguising it, young people, and the youngest the most, a feeling they reciprocated. Her wave on school mornings would have touched these men, younger sons from a very crowded place, and not particularly welcome in this new place.

The men in the fields whom she greeted were from Japan, and some of them from a prefecture known as Hiroshima-ken.

Clara’s spirit suffuses the Paulding House when you walk inside. It is a loving, unpretentious kind of homeliness and you are honored to be its guest. It is also a little insistent, as Clara was (she was descended from Jonathan Edwards, the terrifying Puritan divine) that you wipe your feet. That’s why the bathtub, one of Clara’s more prized possessions, adjoins an exterior door that overlooks the gardens where Ed loved to putter. Ed was by nature a putterer. Clara was by nature a pragmatist, and Ed was not allowed back into the house after his gardening until he’d cleaned himself up in the bathroom first. And the bathtub was no trivial thing: people would drive out to the Coffee Rice home in the 1890s  just to stare at a bathtub that was the equivalent of a Disneyland ride. People just didn’t have them, and the Pauldings had Arroyo Grande’s second. It is a long one and looks like it was made for leisurely baths accompanied by books or magazines and maybe a hot chocolate.

 

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Dr. Edwin Paulding

Ed also loved woodcarving. Doctoring, not so much, although a glass hutch contains virtually every instrument he’d carried in his black bag, even his original Gray’s Anatomy.  He resented it a little when folks got sick or fell off rooftops, as he did once, because it took him away from his flowers and his woodcarving. But there was nobody in San Luis Obispo County better equipped to deal with roof plunges than Ed: he was a natural-born orthopedist, and a bone set by Doc Paulding, it was said, healed as good as new and sometimes better. (Clara would need Ed when a speeding handcar smashed into her buggy at the foot of Crown Hill and broke her arm in three places. It healed completely. And the Pauldings got $1500 from the Pacific Coast Railway, which they needed. Ed was as inept with money as he was skilled at setting broken bones.)

So the mantle and smaller pieces–down to a little rocking chair for Ruth–were all made by Ed, and they’re cut with delicate and graceful motifs, usually floral, inspired by the models he’d just brought in from the garden where he loved to get dirty. Clara later bought a little farm, just outside of town, and it was there where Ed, in his older years, was happiest. When he got sick one day in what would turn out to be his last illness, he’d forgotten to take his morning medicine. Clara, 79, walked–or rather, marched–out to the farm and watched critically as Ed swallowed his required tablespoon.

 

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Ruth, far right, as a little girl.

There are curios, under glass, everywhere: a rhinoceros-hide warrior’s shield that Ed’s missionary parents had acquired in Syria, where he was born, a Chumash water-carrier, like a canteen, caulked with Pismo tar; the contents of Ed’s pockets, including his pocket-watch and chain, money clip, a tiny folding knife. Aside from Gray’s Anatomy, there are books everywhere: a collected Dickens, A Thousand and One Knights, a multi-volume history of the United States, collections of English Romantic poets, especially Tennyson, Clara’s favorite. And there is the bedframe, dark walnut, with a lion’s head relief at the headboard, and that lion was Ruth’s lion. It protected her every night she went to sleep as a little girl; it was as solid and as real and as constant as were her parents.

And everywhere there are tea services. Ruth’s  little-girl doll’s cups and saucers are painted with delicate, tiny flower buds. There is a sterling-silver coffee service at one end of the dining room table, and on a shelf above, there is the best of all. It’s the set Ruth reserved especially for her high school students when she welcomed them into the home of her own girlhood, and that service was reserved for hot chocolate so rich that teenagers would remember it the rest of their lives.

 

 

Jim Gregory is a retired Arroyo Grande High School history teacher and the author of the books World War II Arroyo Grande and the just-released Patriot Graves: Discovering a California Town’s Civil War Heritage.

 

Wounded, not damaged

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Me, age 6, Huasna Road, Arroyo Grande

This is a second attempt to make sense of horrible crimes. I taught a man who is now in the county jail on $7 million bail on 31 felony and misdemeanor accounts of molesting at least nine little girls. “At least” because these are the little girls that sheriff’s deputies have so far been able to identify. There are more.

The news hit Elizabeth and me exceptionally hard, because she taught him, too. We were close to the alleged molester’s family.  And the news came in a week when a friend and colleague at Arroyo Grande High School whom I respected and admired–and feel so much the same for his wife and for his three children, all students of mine–died unexpectedly. It has been a steep and sobering tailspin.

As to the crimes, I have been dismayed by the comments that have followed the news stories about the accused man because they call for summary and vigilante justice. That solves nothing and helps no one. It only makes us all complicit in a different kind of savagery.

I find it just as difficult to summon any sympathy for the accused, if the accusations are true. I can find none. Child molesters are narcissists; they see other human beings as objects, as manipulatives, in their drive for gratification. They lack any kind of empathy (it is said that the accused man abused animals, as well). There must be something dead inside a person who does these things. Yes, the accused was more than likely physically and sexually abused himself. So was I.

And this is what growing up as a victim–if that’s what you choose to be–of violence and sexual abuse is like: every conscious moment is lived in fear. There is a constant undercurrent of dread, of impending doom, that you can never push aside. People like me have a sense of hypervigilance and a pronounced startle reflex: we jump at a dog’s bark or a Fourth of July firecracker. The anxiety is so pervasive that the most reliable palliatives are alcohol or drugs. Those are the only things that consistently and reliably push the fear aside, that allow a fleeing moment of release and self-acceptance, because abuse victims very often are generous, compassionate people with everyone except for themselves.

That is the kind of life that at least nine little girls, who will of course blame themselves for what happened to them, might live out.

They are not doomed to that. It will take an immense amount of hard work on their part, built, I believe, on a foundation of prayer, on our part, to bring them the healing they deserve.

What was done to these little girls was evil and it was powerful. Evil always presents itself this way, as something that is powerful, insurmountable,irresistible. But this self-infatuation is its weakest point. Evil cannot outlast the good will of all of us who love children. I became a teacher because I love children. One of the kindest compliments paid my teaching wasn’t about brilliant lectures. It was about providing a classroom that was safe and accepting.

And evil cannot outlast the power of God, who loves children most of all. These little girls are wounded. They are not damaged. Nothing and no one can violate the loving intention with which they were made.

Because these little girls are incarnate proof of God’s love for all of us, they have every chance, with our help, to become strong, loving and beloved women someday. They may themselves become the mothers of little girls of unimagined–even wondrous– strength and compassion.

This is how the cycle of abuse is broken. I hope it will be broken, too, in the accused man’s family.

But it takes time–God’s time–and in the meantime, the hurt we feel for little girls we may never know sears us. That is God’s intention, I think, as well. He is reminding us in our own pain, and our anger, that we are alive, that we care, that we love, that we endure.

And the Lord, as my  Book of Common Prayer would remind me, endureth forever.

Why, yes. I do love the French.

 

 

 

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The view from our Nice hotel when we took AGHS students there.

I have never been fond of jokes about the courage of French. They are not funny, they are inaccurate, and they reveal only one thing: the joke-teller is a juvenile.

Go to the Ossuary at Verdun, where there are basement galleries heaped with the bones of young men who will never be known except to God. Or go to Fort Douamont on that battlefield, the fortress taken, and re-taken, that consumed 100,000 soldiers between February and December 1916. Go there to tell jokes about the French.

My students and I visited Verdun in perfect silence.

We visited Nice, too, where there was a cowardly and despicable terrorist attack today. The people of Nice know about such things. We saw there a beautiful neoclassic arcade flanking a square in this town on the Mediterranean coast, a place God intended to be known by the perfect clarity of its colors, where cowardly and despicable men—Nazis—executed 27 young people, members of the Resistance, in 1944.

When the Americans invaded southern France in Operation Dragoon that year, they pulled up infuriatingly short of Nice. The nicois, the Resistance, were appalled but they took it out on the Nazis, not the Americans. Outnumbered seven to one, armed with museum-piece firearms, some plastique, some land mines, but most of all with the Resistance weapon of choice, the Molotov cocktail, the nicois, young women and young men, rose up and drove the enemy out. Enraged, the Werhmacht machine-gunned the public buildings of Nice as they fled while the Gestapo crept like furtive spiders out of the Hotel Negresco, where they might have champagne and oysters in one room to fortify themselves for torture in another.

 

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It took the nicois only 48 hours to humiliate the Nazis.

The Americans, expecting a Battle of Nice, arrived and were attacked instead with wine, flowers, and kisses. I doubt that those GI’s thought that jokes about the courage of the French were very funny, not on the day they liberated a beautiful city that had already liberated itself. The real cowards were gone.

 

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The Americans arrive in Nice, 1944.

 

They came back today, and cowards always have days like today, they always shock and sicken, they always brutalize, but they always recede to become footnotes in the yellowing pages of dry history texts. Cowards cannot stand up, no matter how long it might take to defeat them, to men and women of courage—and of culture. France, despite her tendency to infuriate us English-speakers, her prickliness and her pride, is still France. The terrorists struck today in a city whose museums honor Chagall and Matisse. This may seem ludicrous to those who are ignorant by choice, but the cowards who attack a city like that are doomed.

Two wars, two generations

 

 

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In January 1941, Medal of Honor winner Otis W. Smith’s grandson, Johnnie, would enter an army belatedly preparing to fight an even more terrible war, this one against fascism. Hitler declared war near the end of that year, though he had no obligation to do so after the Pearl Harbor attack that had claimed two Arroyo Grande sailors on U.S.S. Arizona. The dictator was jubilant, thinking America decadent and Americans, in his simplistic and misshapen worldview, a “mongrel people.”

 
Prime Minister Winston Churchill was said at the time to have been nearly as pleased as the parochial Austrian dictator was. Unlike Hitler, Churchill knew about Grant and Sheridan, knew what the Iron Brigade had done at Gettysburg, and knew, as well, what Jackson and his “foot cavalry” had done at Chancellorsville. He admired Americans. After all, his mother, Jennie, had been born in Brooklyn.

 

Three thousand miles from Brooklyn, on the Pacific Coast, the Huasna Valley’s Johnnie Otis Smith was preparing to go to war. He was just one of over three hundred young men and women from southern San Luis Obispo County who would join the military in World War II, including the Gularte brothers, Manuel and Frank, whose parents came from the Azores, and the Fuchiwaki brothers, Hilo and Ben, whose parents came from Japan. All three Robison brothers saw action. In nearby Oceano, when Thelma Murray learned that her younger brother, George, had been killed on Tarawa, she became a Marine, too.

 

So this, too, was a brothers’ war, but in this war the brothers fought on the same side. Of course, that realization wouldn’t have had time to occur to Americans on December 7. They would realize it later in the war, when a California GI might write home to his family about the rifle squad that was his new family, write about his new friend, his brother in arms, a dogface from South Carolina. World War II, brutal as it was, would force Americans to rediscover themselves as a common people with a common purpose. The war did this even as it scattered young Americans around the world, to battlefields in New Guinea, the Solomons, and the Aleutians; to Cassino, Eindhoven, and St. Vith.

 

That rediscovery was in the future. On December 7, the first CBS bulletin had come at about 11:30 that morning to the people of Arroyo Grande. On hearing the news of the burning wrecks along Battleship Row, families here would have pushed listlessly at Sunday lunches for which they had no appetite. They would have been shocked and somber and tense, a father snapping at a mother who’d turned off the radio to try to recapture the kind of Sunday afternoon the family would never enjoy again. The war meant that some Arroyo Grande families would never be complete again.

 
A continent and an ocean away, in the depth of an English winter night, Winston Churchill was filled with hope. In an instant of clarity, he understood that now democracy would not—could not—perish from the earth.

Two Patricks from Wicklow

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I just found my Mom’s maternal great-grandfather, Patrick Fox, from the 1880 Pennsylvania Census. He was a coal miner. Mom’s paternal great-grandfather was also named Patrick, and his last name was Keefe.

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My mother, Patricia Margaret Keefe Gregory, with my big sister Roberta, 1943.

The two Patricks were Famine immigrants from the same village, Coolboy, in County Wicklow, tenants to the same landlord, Lord Fitzwilliam. Fitzwilliam paid their passage to the New World because his tenants were so unfaithful to him. They kept starving to death, or more likely, dying of the typhus or pneumonia that hunger invites. The last thing the Famine Irish lost, according to contemporary chroniclers, who wrote of them in amazement, was their sense of humor. Once they’d stopped laughing, death was close at hand.

Long before that, they’d stopped knuckling their foreheads in deference to their betters who waited impatiently for them to die. Some of them had the audacity to refuse the sustenance offered them by Presbyterians in missionary kitchens that required only their conversion as the price for soup. (Before the great Famine exodus, every Irish family kept a hog, which had run of the place, cottage included. They sold it to market to pay their tithes to the Protestant Church of Ireland, to which none of them belonged. It was the law, you see.)

Fitzwilliam replaced his Irish families with sheep, generally easier to get along with than the natives and slightly cheaper to feed, although the variety of potato the Irish ate was so inferior that any self-respecting sheep would have turned it down. The vast majority of the Irish, in the 19th century, lived their entire lives without ever once eating meat, and this is a true thing that I am not inventing. They were the poorest people in Europe before the blight hit, when they were then transmuted from poor people into statistics.

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A replica of the coffin ship Dunbrody in New Ross, Wexford. This is the port from which both the Kennedys and my family sailed for the New World.

But by 1849, my two ancestral families had come to North America, to Canada, at first. They survived Quebec, where, on Belle Isle, thousands died in quarantine once they’d been deposited there by the Coffin Ships.

Patrick Fox’s daughter, Margaret, married Patrick Keefe’s son, Thomas, so Mom’s name was Patricia Margaret Keefe. Margaret and Thomas went from a farm in Ontario to a Minnesota homestead to California orange groves, leaving a trail of children and grandchildren in their wake before they decided to divorce when they were in their seventies. My great-grandfather died in San Jose, my great-grandmother in Los Angeles. He was a Republican, she a Democrat. So it goes.

As to their children, most were named after ancestors, which simplified naming them at all. I guess a couple’s imagination for names runs thin by the time when they dry newborn #11 and wrap her in warm blankets, so the old standards serve best, and the families the size of either the Foxes or the Keefes would’ve easily filled almost a whole 19th-century row house in Boston or New York, with some of the kids spilling over into the flats of families named Berkowitz or Guggia and maybe absently getting adopted. It would’ve looked just like the “Every Sperm is Sacred” number from Monty Python’s Meaning of Life.

One of the Foxes, Sister Loreto, bucked the naming trend, but that’s because she became a nun. Her order wore the same headpiece as Sally Field’s order did, but Sister Loreto did not fly much. Nor does she look perky, like Sally Field.  In the one photo we have of her. She looks Determined. She makes the late Mother Angelica look like a Mousketeer. Sister Loreto was a nurse in homes for unwed mothers in the Midwest. I do not want to think too much about that.

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Sister Loreto, from a photo possibly taken in St. Louis.

By the way, Patrick Keefe never would have stooped to working in a Pennsylvania coal mine like Patrick Fox, Loreto’s father, did. Keefe preferred the Pennsylvania oil fields, preferred labor in forested derrick landscapes where the explosions at least had the decency to kill workingmen in the open air above ground and not bury them anonymously in collapsed tunnels below.

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So did my Dad’s side of the family. The middle two of those roughnecks in the photo below are from his side, my great-uncles, at a field in Taft or Bakersfield. One of them became enraged at a rude and incompetent camp cook and shoved him into a boiler. We’re not sure whether it was lit.

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My Grandfather, Edmund Keefe, was an oilfield worker, too–a “battice man,” which I’ve never successfully defined, before he disappeared in the 1920s, probably with a whore who’d ridden a motorcycle from Texas to take up trade in California. In the wake of his desertion, he wrote plaintive letters to my grandmother in Taft–we have one, post-marked in Long Beach–and even wrote a one-act play about her. She would not take him back.

She instead married another Irishman named Kelly, a sergeant of police, who became my real grandfather.  Yet it was my biological grandfather, Ed Keefe, who remained the real love of my grandmother’s life, which was a long one. I suspect that his wasn’t. He died, in my imagination, in a PEMEX oilfield somewhere deep in post-revolutionary Mexico, a time when gringos were about as welcome as archbishops. Maybe he was shoved into a boiler, too. If so, he likely deserved it.

I’m reasonably sure this is true of every family: our ancestors were hard people, somehow capable of both love and great cruelty, and occasionally both at the same time. We inherited that contradiction, too, I guess, but we would’ve inherited nothing from them at all had they not been so determined to survive.

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Marriage 007644, October 3, 1876, Northumberland and Durham, Ontario: My great-grandparents.

Harmonic Convergence

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After the show today, Elizabeth and I visited the Temple of the People and talked with Eleanor Shumway, the wonderful woman who is the Temple Guardian. I don’t know about mysticism or Magnetic Lines, but I DO know that every time I’m in Halcyon, my blood pressure seems to drop a little and I seem to relax. So that got me to thinking about special places in my life. I bet you have them, too. Here’s a few on the Jimmy List:
1. Halcyon.  Wind chimes required.
2. San Francisco. Still my favorite city. My first trip there, I was six, and there was a lightning storm. I was impressed. Then I saw the Golden Gate Bridge. I was overwhelmed.
3. The American Cemetery at Colleville-sur-Mer, above Omaha Beach. It’s beautiful and incredibly serene. You are compelled to touch the crosses and Stars of David. With the sea air, the marble is so cold that it startles you. You keep brushing the markers with your fingertips anyway. You want so badly for those young men to know that you are there.
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4.  Assisi, Italy. Both for the hilltop view and for being near Francis.
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5. A little square between Branch Mill Road and Arroyo Grande Creek, where I grew up.
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6. Mission Santa Ines. It was my Mom’s favorite mission, my fourth-grade mission project, the place where Elizabeth and I were married, and there are miles of open country that front the place where you can imagine what it might have been like two hundred years ago.

 

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7. Gettysburg. Yes, it’s haunted.
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8. The Uffizi, Florence. I think I could live there.
9. Rural Missouri, summer, when the lighting bugs start to come out.
10. St. Stephen’s Park, Dublin, on a typical (wet) Irish day, when the sun suddenly comes out, brilliant and clear. Miraculous.
11. Anne Frank’s home, Amsterdam. No other place has ever evoked so much sorrow and compassion in me. The family’s presence is palpable.
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12. Metz, France, nearing sunset, when trout start to nose up and leave little ringlets on the surface of the Moselle.
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